You Don’t Always Have to Be Positive

Mar 1, 2016

Well, that’s a strange title for a blog that claims to be all about looking on the bright side, isn’t it? But, it’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately.

You know, it’s easy to put an immense amount of pressure on yourself to always think positively. And, for the most part, I think that’s a great thing! Oftentimes, that upbeat and chipper attitude can pull you through some pretty tough and bleak times. After all, dwelling on your misery and wallowing in your own self pity will get you nowhere fast.

But, let’s face it, sometimes always being optimistic is pretty darn draining—particularly when things just really, really suck. And, you know what? I think it’s perfectly OK to recognize that things aren’t necessarily going your way at that exact moment. Sometimes things are crappy, and no amount of sunshiney thinking is going to deny that. And, in most cases, trying to force yourself to paste on a smile when you really just feel like breaking down only serves to make things worse.

You spilled coffee down your shirt and locked your keys in the car? That really stinks. You didn’t land that big client or project you really, really wanted? Yep, that sucks. You overdrew your checking account, you have an awful cold, or you got in a big fight with one of your best friends? That’s a bummer.

Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s important to bounce back from those down moments and carry on with your life. But, I also think sometimes people feel like they aren’t even entitled to one brief moment of sadness or frustration—like that makes you dramatic or ungrateful. But, YOU ARE entitled to that. Recognizing that you’re stuck in a tough spot doesn’t make you a sourpuss or a Debbie Downer—it makes you human.

So, yes, my friends I do believe in staying positive. I’ll preach positivity until the cows come home. But, that doesn’t mean I believe in being ignorant, naive, or inauthentic. If you need a few minutes to clench your fists and stomp your feet, do it. You won’t hear any criticism from me—because I’ll be right there with you!

Until next time!