BeAfraid

Are you guys ready for a little bit of some Wednesday inspiration? Because I’m about to throw one of those mushy, rambling blog posts at you.

Anyway, I’m not ashamed do admit that I cyber-stalked my fair share of amazing, powerful, and well-respected female entrepreneurs before I finally decided to start my own business. I wanted to know everything about them. What they ate for breakfast. What their evening routines were like. What books helped them become so successful.

I desperately wanted to learn from them, because they just seemed so fearless. Like they had it all together, and they never missed a beat. I thought that everything must be easy for them, because they all seemed so polished and professional all the gosh darn time. And, they definitely couldn’t have been afraid to start their businesses and new adventures—after all, who wouldn’t want to hire them? They’re perfect.

Me, on the other hand? Well, when I was exploring the idea of starting my own business (and even when I actually started it), I felt like I positively paled in comparison. I didn’t know what I was doing. Every decision I made felt like I was doing so on a balance beam with both arms tied behind my back. And, above anything else, I was absolutely scared spitless.

Needless to say, I felt like I had very little in common with all of those successful women I had researched and admired before jumping on the entrepreneurship bandwagon. So, imagine my surprise when I recently received an email from a reader and aspiring freelancer asking me how exactly I do what I do. Her email was essentially the sweetest thing I’ve ever read (sorry, Ty, your handwritten birthday notes are nice too). She told me how inspiring I was, and how much she admired me. She wanted to learn from me.

Now, I’m not telling you all of this to gloat and have one of those shameless, “Let’s all admire how far I’ve come!” interludes. Instead, it was a defining moment for me. It made me realize, that to this woman, I am that successful and “together” female entrepreneur. In her eyes, I had it all figured out.

I don’t at all feel worthy of her admiration, because I still feel like a hot mess crying over her to-do list each and every day. But, I thought this was a good opportunity to provide at least a little bit of inspiration.

And, that note of inspiration is this: nobody has everything all figured out, and I’m convinced that positively everybody is absolutely terrified to start their businesses and chase their passions. But, success doesn’t mean having it all figured out. Success happens when you don’t know exactly what you’re doing, but you go for it and make it work anyway.

So, if you’ve been letting your fear, intimidation, and comparison to others hold you back from dedicating yourself to something you really want—whatever it is—I encourage you to take charge and go for it anyway.

I promise you, you’re no worse off than the rest of us.

Until next time!